Thuy is an intimacy coach & energy healer specializing in Tantric practices, a slow traveler, writer & photographer.
My experience of the world has changed considerably since adopting a slow living mindset 12+ years ago. From daily living, to working, to traveling, my life is my own. I love sipping coffee in my plant filled kitchen. I enjoy welcoming clients into my home studio with a cup of home-brewed tea. I am grateful for my annual travels abroad – for rest & the simple pleasure of discovering a new place. I love capturing the slowness of the world – at home & away – with the ease of my phone camera. Though I am in the deepest grief from losing my dearest friend to suicide, I am grateful that slow living allows me time & space to grieve at my own pace.
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Will is a writer & poet, a mindful traveler & vibrational healer through didgeridoo & crystal singing bowls.
J’ai décidé de nager à contre-courant en privilégiant le temps à l’argent. Cette décision a nécessité des ajustements, des compromis & bien évidemment de la patience. Il m’aura fallu 12 ans pour ralentir et trouver le rythme qui a influencé mes choix professionnels, ma façon de voyager & tout simplement de vivre. Je prends mon temps le matin un café à la main, je passe les hivers au soleil & je privilégie les moments en famille. J’ai compris que le temps est précieux, qu’il n’a pas de prix mais aussi qu’il cicatrise. J’éprouve de la gratitude pour ce choix de vie qui m’offre l’espace pour faire face au suicide de mon chère & tendre ami Antoine.
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Antoine was an electrician, a yogi, a great cook who loved wine, coffee & conversation, a corny jokester & a shoulder we could all lean on.
Slow living for Antoine was making his famous ratatouille recipe or tending to his house plants while sipping coffee all day. If you met Antoine you would immediately know of his generosity, his corny sense of humor, his sensitivity, and how much he would welcome your friendship. It wouldn’t be long before he took you to a yoga class, brought you homemade soup, if you were sick, or offer to fix your electrical. Antoine’s kindness was boundless. That was simply his caring nature and his joys in life.
LA VIE EN SLOW began as a collaboration with Antoine. Our title is borrowed from the classic French song, La Vie En Rose. Life in pink, or seeing life through rose-colored glasses, a perspective that suited our concept of slow living. Fitting, as well, since both Will and Antoine are/were native French speakers. Since losing Antoine to suicide, we are striving to make slow living synonymous with mental well being.
How Three Souls From Across The Globe Became La Vie En Slow
Thuy (twee) is a common Vietnamese name. I was born in 1971 during the Vietnam war. My father abandoned us when I was just an infant, my brother was two, and mom only twenty. Disgraced and destitute she contemplated suicide as American B52s dropped bombs on us. Amid the bombing she took us to a bridge with intention to drown out our lives. Fortunately, she didn’t go through with it. Eight years later in the dark of night, she took us back to the same waters, this time not to end our lives but to save us. We were fleeing Vietnam by boat. We became known as The Boat People. We found refuge in a refugee camp in Hong Kong. A year later, we were received sponsorship from Canada.
Antoine Blondin-Tessier was born in 1973 in a small mining town in northern Quebec. Francine Blondin was a feminist city college professor, wanted by authorities for anti-government activities before she went into hiding in the remote northern town. Jean Tessier was the town’s handsome, though emotionally-reserved, gentleman and an engineer at the mine. They separated when Antoine was a young child. Francine sent him to live with Jean when she fell ill. While Antoine struggled to get along with his father, his mother was fighting her own battle with breast cancer, a secret she kept from him for two years. He was 17 when she died.
William Saint-Narcisse was born in 1977 in Brittany, France to a French mother and a Vietnamese born, ethnically Indian father. Thérèse was a young woman from the French countryside. August was a military man stationed in the small town. Together they had four children and intermittently moved the family abroad, then back to France, then abroad again. Will was exposed to various cultures at a young age having spent his childhood in French Guyana, Ivory Coast and Guadeloupe before following his older brother into the French army at age 16. Though the military was not his calling, it was the only option to escape chaos and tensions at home.
Antoine and I met in 2001 at the Montreal YMCA where I taught fitness classes. We began dating soon after. In 2004 I moved to Palm Springs, California where he had recently settled. We had plans to marry but the relationship dissolved in 2006. Remaining friends was a priority for us both. In 2017 while traveling in Spain, I met Will. An international romance ensued, spanning several countries. Three months later I returned home to NYC and invited both Will and Antoine to come visit. I was excited for them to meet.
As awkward as it was for a former fiancé to meet the new man in my life, it was also very heartening that we could all be friends, though it was not without struggle and at times intense conflict. But our love and desire to be in each other’s lives kept our friendship blossoming. Over the years Will and I continued to travel. Antoine joined us on several occasions. He loved our slow travel way of life and appreciated having an escape from the monotony of his own life.
There’s truth in the saying If you want to know someone, travel with him. Will and Antoine got to know each other deeply. They had a connection outside of me. As native French speakers, they shared certain commonalities in language and culture that I did not have reference to. Of course, there were the things that bonded the three of us, like wine and cheese, coffee and conversation, cooking and yoga – and more than anything, enjoyment from each other’s company. We spoke about starting a blog to inspire people to live slow. But what would we call it? La Vie En Slow came to mind. It was fitting, as it was bilingual, and borrowed from the classic French song La Vie En Rose (seeing life through rose-colored glasses). Slowing down the pace of life so we can experience simple joys through a rosy lens suited our slow living philosophy. It became a catch phrase for us. Each time Antoine sighed at the stress of life, we all would look at each other and say la vie en slow.
Celestún, Mexico – February 2022